This is so interesting! I was a girl in the 1950’s. Believe me, we girls were not “free”. I wanted to wear jeans, but had to wear dresses. My brother didn’t have to help clean up after dinner because he would have a “wife” to do it for him. My dad called me “no good” because of my initials. I could only run around shirtless outside because we lived in a fruit orchard, but my parents didn’t approve. I heard my mother telling her friend that there was something “wrong” with me. I only wanted to be free. Girls are much freer now and it’s time for you boys to find your own freedom. I’ve always said just do what you want to in the beautiful body that you were born in!
Yeah, before girls were more restricted too, good point. But now it got much better for them, but not for the boys.
I wonder why people do always have to try to fit the boys into very narrow box. Boys are never allowed to do anything feminine or even anything uncoventional and 'untoward' way not directly related to gender.
Boys playing dolls, using makeup later as teen, dying their hair, wear bright clothes? Then parents and society always try to suppress this self-expression! Before boys were beaten in all those cases and forced to act 'manly'. Now boys are told they're girls in all those cases and are put on hormones and puberty blockers. The results are equally disastrous. Just let the boys explore and express themselves in different ways without forcing anything down on them!
The only time I've cross-dressed is when I and my girlfriend of the time swapped clothes. She used mascara to indicate a beard and moustache. And then applied lipstick and rouge to my own physiognomy. It was just a piece of fun and was soon over.
I can remember Barry Humphries appearing as Dame Edna Everage and being much loved for doing so. Then there were pantomime Dames like the redoutable Widow Twanky. Nobody raised an eyebrow then. Nobody thought of them as a threat to children.
Well, old Drag shows were fun too. But this article isn't about how fun they were before or how they turned into a threat for children now, but rather a philosophical pondering on why so many men want to appear as women and is it really always wrong.
I came to a conclusion that if society wasn't so strict on men expressing themselves and their emotion while being pretty lax on women with this regard, much less men would have wanted to appear women...
I suspect you're right. Women dress in trouser-suits and nobody has any difficulty with that. They still remain women. But the reciprocal arrangement for some reason simply isn't permitted. Only a few male gurus are allowed to appear in loose flowing robes. And actually look comfortable.
Exactly! And it's not just about cross-dressing! Men can't even wear bright flamboyant clothes or dye their hairs without fingers being pointed at them. They can't cry or even laugh and publicly express emotion. Men can't also hug, compliment or kiss each as part of friend affection without suspicions of them being gay while women can do all of it freely.
Again, women have much more freedom than they think, especially freedom if expression. Feminists tend to forget it when they talk of ‘patriarchy’.
My own working hypothesis is that homosexuality is actually caused by homophobia. Homophobes are so insecure in their masculinity they actually need some men to be homosexual so they they can differentiate themselves from them. I simply refuse to play their game.
There's a sexual subcategory that's not Autogyne nor is it trans, the sissy delusion/phenomenon/syndrome and feminine men who service the needs of generally straight men whether culturally such as the mahu in Polynesia and parallels in native American society and probably elsewhere in modernity where dudes who like dudes but label the activity otherwise for reasons and act the anti-sex as the receptacle for manly lust.
Yeah, you're perhaps correct. Also if not cultural, it happens just in modern Western average life - all those sissies are servicing straight men, who only use them as sex toys bit will never marry or even date... That's actually sad. In my article I meant not those cases because those ones are too sad to include.
Eunuchs existed in Islamic slave trade and China and probably had dual use labels.
As previously discussed and as guards for the Royal ladies.
A Chinese e u n u c h explored the world with a fleet of ships of giant proportions, 1421 is the book and he was a large Chinese person. I found the book plausible and fascinating but debunkers pick it apart.
The category of asexual is rarely discussed and is more relevant to more folks than is acknowledged.
Mike doran from the Hudson institute stated it during a show and I thought damn so am I, not by philosophical choice just due to obtuse interactions with Humanity since my divorce.
Since hypersexuality has been normalized everybody thinks that everybody needs what they needed when they needed it for the reasons that they needed it and shrugging it off or just finding it not worth the bother and risk becomes an eventuality, I'm aware of others who are beyond hyperactive in multiple partner scenarios and I can't judge nor fathom how they find the time and energy to put up with the bullshit of interacting with folks just for the sake of moments of lusty fun needing to be replaced by more moments of lusty fun🤷
I agree with a lot of what you wrote. While I do think that men and women don’t necessarily have the same capacity or need for expressing emotions, I do agree that society does squelch men’s expression of emotions and celebrates women’s expression of same. I shudder whenever I watch parents treat their daughters like little princesses and rejoice at whatever emotional excess she indulges in. Unfortunately, that does not prepare girls for the realities of life and of becoming a decent life partner and parent.
Exactly! And when parents punish boys for expressing emotion and thus turn them into automatons incapable of dealing with their emotion, it's scary and wrong too.
A good read, thanks. I liked the 'what this is not' which neatly summarises a lot of issues, and then moving on to an interesting broader thought piece.
Thanks! Well, disclaimers are sadly still necessary in this case because many people are too fast to jump to conclusions and attack at any opportunity. But I'm glad you liked my main thoughts here!
I think that part of the issue is also status, the desire to be at the top of the pecking order in some way or another, that men have been made societally unattractive by modern politics, and like you say, women are much freer in many ways, so that means they are able to wield power more effectively than men.
I'm not altogether sure, but I suspect that status via exoticism/oppression/victimhood is a factor too. Trans is a way for low status men to climb the dominance hierarchy. Again, not all trans, just some. What's interesting is most want to be girls, to be attractive, young and pretty, hardly any want to be a woman, it's an ideal of feminine beauty that's closely tied to female status, i.e. the dominance hierarchy that they are perhaps chasing after. I'm happy to be proven wrong on this, I'm just musing really.
Yeah, you might be up onto something here. I only wouldn't say it's always necessarily craving for dominance and hierarchy, often it's just a desire to break free from all the restrictions, expectations, and the blame placed on men by society, and just to be themselves. Ironically, the ONLY way for a man to be himself in our times without society telling him what to do is to claim to be a woman...
I forced myself to read your whole article. We transgender females don't just suddenly want to be women. Early in my life I fell into the gay trap and suffered for it. I wish people like you would stop equating transgender female with gay males who can't adjust. I was never happy with men in my life and the hollowness of any of these relationships was such a turnoff. I had my first boyfriend at age 13. By early adulthood I finally realized that I'm not a gay man. And that I'm not trying to soften homosexuality by transitioning to female. Now I have a woman in my life and I've washed my hands of men and males and everything that goes with it. And I've never been more satisfied and happy. Any sadness or difficulties I have are related to outward pressures and my not having completed fully transitioning. I wish a lot of you out there would just let us be. Instead of imposing your own set of rules and ideas on being transgender and whether we are allowed to have a place at all. I realize a lot of gay people are not supportive of transgender people. But again just leave us the fuck alone. Being transgender is complex and you reduced it to this external analysis where a male is responding solely to outward influences. Just making it seem also whimsical. I already went through the transition earlier in my life. Only to find out there's no other way for me except transitioning. What an incredible amount of time and energy and misery that has gone into all this. My gender identity issues began when I was four or five years old and I changed my male name in defiance and proclamation. Again this is no quick whimsical faddish thing. I can't speak for everybody but that's not the case for me. But unfortunately, a lot of people are going to buy into what you wrote. And I also believe you're sincere in what you're writing and you are probably well intentioned. So be it. But you don't do us any favors with your analysis. I'm trying to stay away from the detransitioners on this website and others like you (as tempting as it is to occasionally read outside of my usual publications). I think one of the biggest problems is people try to understand transgender from their own personal (cis) experience and perspective. They start with themselves. Their way of being. Their sexuality. And if they're not transgender their conclusions can be wrong. I'm at the point where I realize I need to go back and stay with my own kind and stay away from discourse that will not accept my identity. I've already got the government erasing my very existence from the very top down. And now I'm under the threat of having my health insurance disappear before I can complete everything I intend to do. Finally, you don't like homophobes but I don't think you have a problem with transphobes.
I'm sorry but it's you trans homophobes who can't leave people alone and push yourself down on EVERYONE - women, kids, gays... You invade women sports and private spaces, gay dating spaces, groom kids and trans the gay away. Stop demanding from people to affirm your delusions and mental illness and stop pushing yourselves and your agenda down on everyone, people are sick of it if you didn't notice.
My opinion is going to be very unpopular. So here goes: the Bible says that homosexuality is a sin, and takes its place in the list of sins like lying, stealing adultery, idolatry, envy and strife. We all have a “favorite” (besetting) sin that we need to confess and turn away from as we turn to Jesus, Savior of the world. When we trust in Him, and His completed redemptive work on the cross, the just for the unjust, we can have relationship with God the Father and through the work of the Holy Spirit in our soul, we will be willing to give up the desires of self and whatever sin we were bound in and so by live to glorify God.
I'm beginning to get tired of you. Not only you support and excuse genocidal war in Gaza, you're also a raging homophobe.
You know, I don't give a FUCK of what the Bible says. I'm not a Christian and you don't have ANY moral right to force your sick beliefs down on me. Period.
Also, the Bible justifies slavery and wars and annihilation of other nations. Do you support all that too? Oh well, you do, just like you want to annihilate all the Palestinians. All is clear with you. You have ZERO morality, you're fucking homophobic genocidal hypocrite.
So please FUCK OFF my stack, you scum of humanity, or I will block you.
This is so interesting! I was a girl in the 1950’s. Believe me, we girls were not “free”. I wanted to wear jeans, but had to wear dresses. My brother didn’t have to help clean up after dinner because he would have a “wife” to do it for him. My dad called me “no good” because of my initials. I could only run around shirtless outside because we lived in a fruit orchard, but my parents didn’t approve. I heard my mother telling her friend that there was something “wrong” with me. I only wanted to be free. Girls are much freer now and it’s time for you boys to find your own freedom. I’ve always said just do what you want to in the beautiful body that you were born in!
Yeah, before girls were more restricted too, good point. But now it got much better for them, but not for the boys.
I wonder why people do always have to try to fit the boys into very narrow box. Boys are never allowed to do anything feminine or even anything uncoventional and 'untoward' way not directly related to gender.
Boys playing dolls, using makeup later as teen, dying their hair, wear bright clothes? Then parents and society always try to suppress this self-expression! Before boys were beaten in all those cases and forced to act 'manly'. Now boys are told they're girls in all those cases and are put on hormones and puberty blockers. The results are equally disastrous. Just let the boys explore and express themselves in different ways without forcing anything down on them!
Thank you all for the great writeup
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The only time I've cross-dressed is when I and my girlfriend of the time swapped clothes. She used mascara to indicate a beard and moustache. And then applied lipstick and rouge to my own physiognomy. It was just a piece of fun and was soon over.
I can remember Barry Humphries appearing as Dame Edna Everage and being much loved for doing so. Then there were pantomime Dames like the redoutable Widow Twanky. Nobody raised an eyebrow then. Nobody thought of them as a threat to children.
Well, old Drag shows were fun too. But this article isn't about how fun they were before or how they turned into a threat for children now, but rather a philosophical pondering on why so many men want to appear as women and is it really always wrong.
I came to a conclusion that if society wasn't so strict on men expressing themselves and their emotion while being pretty lax on women with this regard, much less men would have wanted to appear women...
I suspect you're right. Women dress in trouser-suits and nobody has any difficulty with that. They still remain women. But the reciprocal arrangement for some reason simply isn't permitted. Only a few male gurus are allowed to appear in loose flowing robes. And actually look comfortable.
Exactly! And it's not just about cross-dressing! Men can't even wear bright flamboyant clothes or dye their hairs without fingers being pointed at them. They can't cry or even laugh and publicly express emotion. Men can't also hug, compliment or kiss each as part of friend affection without suspicions of them being gay while women can do all of it freely.
Again, women have much more freedom than they think, especially freedom if expression. Feminists tend to forget it when they talk of ‘patriarchy’.
My own working hypothesis is that homosexuality is actually caused by homophobia. Homophobes are so insecure in their masculinity they actually need some men to be homosexual so they they can differentiate themselves from them. I simply refuse to play their game.
Nope, I believe homosexuality is inborn and existed long before homophobia. But homophobia might be a sign of suppressed homo or bisexuality though.
Thank you all for the great writeup
I connect all my subscribe to Gilbert
Following his good work for long time he explain on how life changing investment business grows for the economy.
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩 𝟣 𝟥𝟦𝟩𝟤𝟢𝟫𝟦𝟧𝟥𝟢
There's a sexual subcategory that's not Autogyne nor is it trans, the sissy delusion/phenomenon/syndrome and feminine men who service the needs of generally straight men whether culturally such as the mahu in Polynesia and parallels in native American society and probably elsewhere in modernity where dudes who like dudes but label the activity otherwise for reasons and act the anti-sex as the receptacle for manly lust.
LARPing in the bedroom
Well, that's a good point too. But also for some feminine gay men it's the only way to get a manly masculine boyfriend.
Calling it a boyfriend is a stretch as it's rarely a public display.
Unless they are full dressing active drag queens playing that role, but that role typically is more theatrical or political
More a commitment to a lifestyle of service as a sissy without the bitchy catty gay🤔
Sissy indoctrination is a thing
Ladyboys in Asia and bacha bazzi boys in Afghanistan 🤷
Yeah, you're perhaps correct. Also if not cultural, it happens just in modern Western average life - all those sissies are servicing straight men, who only use them as sex toys bit will never marry or even date... That's actually sad. In my article I meant not those cases because those ones are too sad to include.
Eunuchs existed in Islamic slave trade and China and probably had dual use labels.
As previously discussed and as guards for the Royal ladies.
A Chinese e u n u c h explored the world with a fleet of ships of giant proportions, 1421 is the book and he was a large Chinese person. I found the book plausible and fascinating but debunkers pick it apart.
The category of asexual is rarely discussed and is more relevant to more folks than is acknowledged.
Yeah, I'm aware of the eunuchs, but what do you about asexual to be relevant to more folks than it's acknowledged though?
Mike doran from the Hudson institute stated it during a show and I thought damn so am I, not by philosophical choice just due to obtuse interactions with Humanity since my divorce.
Since hypersexuality has been normalized everybody thinks that everybody needs what they needed when they needed it for the reasons that they needed it and shrugging it off or just finding it not worth the bother and risk becomes an eventuality, I'm aware of others who are beyond hyperactive in multiple partner scenarios and I can't judge nor fathom how they find the time and energy to put up with the bullshit of interacting with folks just for the sake of moments of lusty fun needing to be replaced by more moments of lusty fun🤷
Thank you all for the great writeup
I connect all my subscribe to Gilbert
Following his good work for long time he explain on how life changing investment business grows for the economy.
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩 𝟣 𝟥𝟦𝟩𝟤𝟢𝟫𝟦𝟧𝟥𝟢
I agree with a lot of what you wrote. While I do think that men and women don’t necessarily have the same capacity or need for expressing emotions, I do agree that society does squelch men’s expression of emotions and celebrates women’s expression of same. I shudder whenever I watch parents treat their daughters like little princesses and rejoice at whatever emotional excess she indulges in. Unfortunately, that does not prepare girls for the realities of life and of becoming a decent life partner and parent.
Exactly! And when parents punish boys for expressing emotion and thus turn them into automatons incapable of dealing with their emotion, it's scary and wrong too.
Thank you all for the great writeup
I connect all my subscribe to Gilbert
Following his good work for long time he explain on how life changing investment business grows for the economy.
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩 𝟣 𝟥𝟦𝟩𝟤𝟢𝟫𝟦𝟧𝟥𝟢
Amen !!
Thank you all for the great writeup
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Following his good work for long time he explain on how life changing investment business grows for the economy.
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A good read, thanks. I liked the 'what this is not' which neatly summarises a lot of issues, and then moving on to an interesting broader thought piece.
Thanks! Well, disclaimers are sadly still necessary in this case because many people are too fast to jump to conclusions and attack at any opportunity. But I'm glad you liked my main thoughts here!
Thank you all for the great writeup
I connect all my subscribe to Gilbert
Following his good work for long time he explain on how life changing investment business grows for the economy.
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩 𝟣 𝟥𝟦𝟩𝟤𝟢𝟫𝟦𝟧𝟥𝟢
Another thoughtful piece, Alex. You definitely raise some valid points.
Thank you!
Thank you all for the great writeup
I connect all my subscribe to Gilbert
Following his good work for long time he explain on how life changing investment business grows for the economy.
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩 𝟣 𝟥𝟦𝟩𝟤𝟢𝟫𝟦𝟧𝟥𝟢
I think that part of the issue is also status, the desire to be at the top of the pecking order in some way or another, that men have been made societally unattractive by modern politics, and like you say, women are much freer in many ways, so that means they are able to wield power more effectively than men.
I'm not altogether sure, but I suspect that status via exoticism/oppression/victimhood is a factor too. Trans is a way for low status men to climb the dominance hierarchy. Again, not all trans, just some. What's interesting is most want to be girls, to be attractive, young and pretty, hardly any want to be a woman, it's an ideal of feminine beauty that's closely tied to female status, i.e. the dominance hierarchy that they are perhaps chasing after. I'm happy to be proven wrong on this, I'm just musing really.
Yeah, you might be up onto something here. I only wouldn't say it's always necessarily craving for dominance and hierarchy, often it's just a desire to break free from all the restrictions, expectations, and the blame placed on men by society, and just to be themselves. Ironically, the ONLY way for a man to be himself in our times without society telling him what to do is to claim to be a woman...
I forced myself to read your whole article. We transgender females don't just suddenly want to be women. Early in my life I fell into the gay trap and suffered for it. I wish people like you would stop equating transgender female with gay males who can't adjust. I was never happy with men in my life and the hollowness of any of these relationships was such a turnoff. I had my first boyfriend at age 13. By early adulthood I finally realized that I'm not a gay man. And that I'm not trying to soften homosexuality by transitioning to female. Now I have a woman in my life and I've washed my hands of men and males and everything that goes with it. And I've never been more satisfied and happy. Any sadness or difficulties I have are related to outward pressures and my not having completed fully transitioning. I wish a lot of you out there would just let us be. Instead of imposing your own set of rules and ideas on being transgender and whether we are allowed to have a place at all. I realize a lot of gay people are not supportive of transgender people. But again just leave us the fuck alone. Being transgender is complex and you reduced it to this external analysis where a male is responding solely to outward influences. Just making it seem also whimsical. I already went through the transition earlier in my life. Only to find out there's no other way for me except transitioning. What an incredible amount of time and energy and misery that has gone into all this. My gender identity issues began when I was four or five years old and I changed my male name in defiance and proclamation. Again this is no quick whimsical faddish thing. I can't speak for everybody but that's not the case for me. But unfortunately, a lot of people are going to buy into what you wrote. And I also believe you're sincere in what you're writing and you are probably well intentioned. So be it. But you don't do us any favors with your analysis. I'm trying to stay away from the detransitioners on this website and others like you (as tempting as it is to occasionally read outside of my usual publications). I think one of the biggest problems is people try to understand transgender from their own personal (cis) experience and perspective. They start with themselves. Their way of being. Their sexuality. And if they're not transgender their conclusions can be wrong. I'm at the point where I realize I need to go back and stay with my own kind and stay away from discourse that will not accept my identity. I've already got the government erasing my very existence from the very top down. And now I'm under the threat of having my health insurance disappear before I can complete everything I intend to do. Finally, you don't like homophobes but I don't think you have a problem with transphobes.
I'm sorry but it's you trans homophobes who can't leave people alone and push yourself down on EVERYONE - women, kids, gays... You invade women sports and private spaces, gay dating spaces, groom kids and trans the gay away. Stop demanding from people to affirm your delusions and mental illness and stop pushing yourselves and your agenda down on everyone, people are sick of it if you didn't notice.
No Thanks….
Well good you don't feel this allure but sadly many men do, and not just pervs or mentally ill...
My opinion is going to be very unpopular. So here goes: the Bible says that homosexuality is a sin, and takes its place in the list of sins like lying, stealing adultery, idolatry, envy and strife. We all have a “favorite” (besetting) sin that we need to confess and turn away from as we turn to Jesus, Savior of the world. When we trust in Him, and His completed redemptive work on the cross, the just for the unjust, we can have relationship with God the Father and through the work of the Holy Spirit in our soul, we will be willing to give up the desires of self and whatever sin we were bound in and so by live to glorify God.
I'm beginning to get tired of you. Not only you support and excuse genocidal war in Gaza, you're also a raging homophobe.
You know, I don't give a FUCK of what the Bible says. I'm not a Christian and you don't have ANY moral right to force your sick beliefs down on me. Period.
Also, the Bible justifies slavery and wars and annihilation of other nations. Do you support all that too? Oh well, you do, just like you want to annihilate all the Palestinians. All is clear with you. You have ZERO morality, you're fucking homophobic genocidal hypocrite.
So please FUCK OFF my stack, you scum of humanity, or I will block you.
Thank you all for the great writeup
I connect all my subscribe to Gilbert
Following his good work for long time he explain on how life changing investment business grows for the economy.
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩 𝟣 𝟥𝟦𝟩𝟤𝟢𝟫𝟦𝟧𝟥𝟢