An Allure to be a Woman for a Man

Why Do So Many Men Claim Trans Identities Now?

Ofc, it’s easier to blame toxic Woke gender ideology for everything, and it’s indeed a big part of that. However, I do believe that no ideology would be so successful at brainwashing people without underlying societal conditions for it. So what are those conditions? What makes so many Western men claim to be women?

Now, I would like to make some disclaimers before proceeding. First of all, this essay is not an attempt to defend Woke gender ideology and trans psychosis based on it in any way, I remain to be strongly opposed to both. This essay is merely my humble attempt to understand what goes on in the brain of a man who suddenly decides he’s a woman, and word ‘mental illness’ is too brief and too dismissive to explain everything.

More disclaimers before that though. First, I’m not gonna talk of autogynephiles - those are sure predatory perverts and need no explanation no understanding. Neither I’m gonna talk of genuinely dysphoric men who are uncomfortable with their bodies - this is rather a case for a mental health doctor. Lastly, this essay isn’t about men who want to score some benefits by claiming trans identity (for example, to win in sports competitions against girls) or sexual predators who wanna peep at girls in their bathrooms and locker rooms. Neither of it has anything to do with a genuine allure to become a woman for a man. Those are either sexual perversions or rational calculations or genuine mental health disorder. I’m not interested in any of that, all is clear here. I’m gonna talk of average men who for various pretty understandable reasons felt allure of being a woman, facilitated by Woke gender ideology.

Now, many people don’t understand this allure at all. For most conservatives, it’s not even a question that you should simply embrace a body God had given to you, not rebel against it. Old school liberals and feminists also don’t understand this allure albeit for different reason - in their view, women are still ‘subjugated’ to men in our society due to ‘patriarchy’, are discriminated against in many ways, etc., and so why would any man in their sane mind even want to forfeit his ‘privileged’ position in society in order to become discriminated and subjugated? It’s really an enigma to them.

However, as a gay man who has some femininity inside me due to my sexuality, I could somewhat understand this allure. There are many areas where women are actually much freer than men in our society, and those areas are completely overlooked by both conservatives and liberals and feminists. So, what are those areas?

Freedom of Emotional Expression

Women are much freer to express themselves and their emotion than men in our society. They can suddenly burst into laughter and crying and no one would give a fuck. For men, this behavior is acceptable only when they’re drunk, and even then no always. Most of the time, men have to guard their emotion, both their joys and sorrow, turning into stones or emotionless automatons. Boys don’t cry, remember? And they don’t laugh too, apparently. Poker face is a face of a man. No wonder many men rebel against that.

Freedom of Expression Inside Female Friendships

If you have ever observed, women are pretty free in their interactions between each other. They often hug, compliment and even kiss each other. Just as friends. No big deal.

Now imagine men doing the same? Guy who compliments or even more so kisses another guy would be instantly suspected not just of homosexuality but of particular sexual designs on the guy he compliments or kisses, no less. Just like they can’t openly express their own feelings, men cannot openly express their feelings towards their fellow males. Heavy restrain is needed here too.

Freedom of Clothes and Appearance

Women are also much freer when it comes to their clothes and overall appearance. They can dress however they like, do whatever they like with their hair, skin, nails…They can dress like fairies or dye their hair any color (though bright hair colors were recently discredited by Woketards) or go bald, use makeup or not, wear jewelry, etc.

Now, men are again much less free when it comes to their appearance. Until very recent, men couldn’t even dye their hair or use makeup without being condemned or even beaten up for it. Men’s clothing also were much more boring and conventional until very recent, no creativity or style whatsoever. Clothing was deemed ‘female art’. And no jewelry ofc unless it’s for status. Be grey, dull, boring, inconspicuous if you’re a man, otherwise you’re gay.

This had changed during last decades but men are still much less free with regard to their clothes and appearance than women.

Freedom of Hobbies

Until very recent, men weren’t free even when it came to choosing their hobbies. They should have chosen some ‘serious’, ‘solid’ hobbies. A man likes dancing or yoga or astrology? No way! While women always could have chosen any hobbies they liked, without being judged by it.

And there are many other things like that. Some people might object that it’s not that traditional society restricted men in all those areas but that men in general are less emotional or care less of their appearance. This is not true, however. We are all human, and all have our emotion. Men aren’t automatons or stones, sigh. Men are just as emotional as women by their nature, as studies also suggest.

Hence, the difference in emotional expression is 100% induced by society, and it begins from very early childhood when parents punish boys for openly expressing their emotion while rewarding girls for it. As a result, boys learn to hide and suppress their emotion while girls learn not just to openly express them but also to use them for manipulation purposes (since as little girls they were always rewarded for expression their emotion!).

You might say that it’s not too bad when men learn to be ‘tough’ while girls - caring. That is also wrong, however. First, I do believe that to suppress one’s individual nature is always a crime. Second, again, studies suggest that suppressing their emotion leads to huge psychological problems among men - they often can’t cope with hard life situations, resort to drink and drugs, and in worst cases lose all their empathy altogether.

It’s no better for women. When they learn to use their emotion as a tool of manipulation (notorious ‘women’s tears’ thingy), it largely harms their capacity for healthy relationships. Hence, ‘traditionalist’ societal upbringing when men are taught to suppress their emotion while women - to over express it, harms their nature and leads to no good. That’s why it’s no wonder many people rebel against their ‘gender role’ which was used by Woke trans activism.

Those issues I discussed above were caused by our traditional culture. However, modern Woke culture added even more reasons for men to envy women. Woke culture demonized white man beyond measure, explicitly portraying all white boys as toxic and predatory. No wonder that modern men, especially white, want to be men no longer. Who wants to be blamed for all the shit on Earth just because of having a penis between their legs? So, even more reasons for men to desire to escape their sex. Not that all the previous reasons I stated were completely eradicated either.

Again, I’m not suggesting that denying their biological sex and claiming an opposite one is a solution to any of these problems. Nope. But I’m saying that I understand their reasons for doing so! Many boys believe - and not erroneously! - that they could be much freer with their emotion, clothing, appearance, hobbies, in relationships with other boys, basically, with regard to everything if they would be perceived as girls and not boys. Also, they won’t be blamed for all the evil on Earth now when they’re already ‘girls’. Now, it sounds kinda pretty understandable, isn’t it?

So, in order to finally solve trans problem, perhaps it’s not enough just to sign certain executive orders but better to also address underlying social and psychological factors which had led to trans plague to begin with. Instead of castigating all the men claiming trans identities as ‘perverts’, ‘mentally ill’, ‘retards’, etc., perhaps we would try to understand their reasons for doing so and try to fix underlying problems/ Again, I’m not talking of autogenyphiles and sexual predators and groomers. I’m talking of regular men who want to escape their sex or at least to be perceived as the members of the opposite sex by other people due to the reasons I stated.

And in order to fix these problems, we need to address both feminist and traditionalist shortcomings in upbringing of boys. We should definitely stop telling our boys that they are toxic and predatory by their very nature, as feminists do. But we should also stop telling our boys to suppress their emotion too as traditionalists do. We need to respect their individual nature, not break it. We need to raise our boys to be in harmony with themselves, not at odds. It’s very important. Until it’s done, trans plague won’t be over despite all Trump executive orders.